Tips to have that stress-free wedding you have always dreamed about!

You have pictured your wedding day in your head time and time again. You have imagined all your bridesmaids, friends and family coming together. I bet you have pictured every detail to make your wedding special for all your guests and you. After all, your wedding represents not only two people's’ lives coming together, but it represents countless lost hours of free time.

Thousands of beloved calories left behind on the table. Along with all the hard earned cash you spent to represent one of the most memorable days of your life.  Now, do you want to be that bridezilla who is SO stressed out they can’t even begin to enjoy their day? NO, right?

So, it is important that when the big day finally arrives, it is smooth as butter, and as stress-free, as you can possibly make it.

Why is this important?

You know the answer….it is just hard to sometimes execute it. Stress will show on your face, in your voice and in the relationships you are building on that big day. You don’t want to be the bride that bursts into tears on her wedding day because her well-intentioned plans didn’t manifest into the perfect day. {Click to tweet button}

It is hard enough to make it all come together perfectly, and you don’t want to waste all of your precious time and energy stressing about the details!

Who wants to walk around stressed out snapping at people? Who wants to lose that needed beauty sleep worrying?

Who wants to lose track of if they fed the dog or not?  Who wants to fight with the love of their life when they don’t need to?

It’s as if you are paying to be stressed out and just throwing your $$ out the window!  

Your wedding day needs to be, and SHOULD be a fantastic memory and celebration of your love, shared with your family and friends.

It SHOULD be fun, celebratory, joyous and an amazing start to your fantastic new life.

If you could have your dream wedding, I bet that you would want it to be a hugely awesome experience!  And, I bet you would like it to go off without a hitch knowing all that cash spent, was soooo worth it!  

Just think about all the glorious sleep you could have knowing that you have it all under control!!

Now, are you and your significant other ready to plan your dream wedding?  You and your spouse will have so much more fun on your big day when you are in control of your plan. Your guests will have fun and … what a fantastic way to start your marriage!

  • You have a more memorable of an experience
  • Your cash is $$ well spent
  • You are in control of your life and it is less likely something will go wrong
  • You will have better sleep
  • You will have more fun
  • Your guests will have more fun
  • It is a better start to your marriage

The answer to having that stress free dream wedding is easier than you think.  It is pretty simple too, you just have to follow some basic guidelines to get you through!

  • Having vendors you trust:

This sounds pretty basic, but you would not believe the number of brides that choose their vendors on price alone!  You will be handing over so many important details to your vendors, it is up to you to get in there and really make a connection with your vendors. You should know that your vendors have your back and that your business to THEM is very important. Hire vendors you can trust, not just vendors you can afford.

  • Take the time to make informed decisions:

I know, time is hard to come by when you have so much on your plate. But, if you don’t make the time to make good choices and finalize the important decisions, the stress bug will creep up on you when you least expect it. Cake or cupcake? Pro photographer or Uncle Jim? While Uncle Jim might be a wiz with his camera and come with a tiny price tag, will you ultimately get all the shots you want?  Take the time to research and decide, and then you will know you are being taken care of, and you are getting just what you want.

  • Have a smart timeline:

Yes, you need this. Are you unsure about how this should look? Do a bit of research, ultimately the timeline is yours to build in any way you want. Short and sweet, or a long, detailed affair...either way, make sure you map out your day.

  • Make a list of family formals:

What the??  Family formals = all those pictures that every single aunt, uncle, cousin, and nana want to take with you and your spouse. You don’t want to inadvertently leave anyone out of the pictures, so make sure and make a list of all the pictures you want taken. Nana will thank you for that one later!

  • Don’t over complicate things:

Easier said than done, right??  Wrong. You can do it! Like most things in life, the easier and simpler, the better.  If you have a grand idea, write it down. Now, go back and find a simpler solution to that idea, and make it easier on you, your spouse and your family.

  • You don’t need to do everything that everyone says:

Oh boy, yeah repeat that out loud again! This is YOUR wedding. Do it your way, your style and in a way that you are comfortable. Just because Nana had 12 bridesmaids and 4 flower girls and a double procession doesn’t mean you have to.

  • You don’t need to include all the normal traditional things:

Come on darling, it is 2017. We do things now that our parents never dreamed of. Want a traditional wedding? Then, get in there and do it. If you want something more untraditional and unique, then that is fine too.  Either way, you don’t have to go crazy and include everything. Go ahead and include a few things that are important to you, your spouse or family. But, wow…. You don’t HAVE to stress yourself out with every single wedding tradition.

Now, are you ready to have that amazing stress-free wedding?? Great! I want you to sit back and take a big deep breath.

Visualize what you want. See yourself at your wedding living it up!!

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How to save $$ and make your wedding stand out

Of course, you want to throw one epic bash. A wedding and reception that your guests will talk about for years. The very last thing you will want is yawns and glances at watches. I know you don’t want to find Nana snoozing in the corner. The hardest to impress guests get bored easily and may try to duck out early.

By now you have seen gobs of wedding ideas. The wedding magazines and Pinterest have so many ideas, it makes a gal’s head spin. Of course having a wedding that stands out is important, but so is staying on budget! A unique and unforgettable wedding is a lot of hard work, and it becomes very hard to save money at the same time. By the time you impress the wedding party and the family with amazing ideas, your budget may feel smashed.

Your soiree should make time stand still. It should make all the single ladies pine for such a fantastic bash. Make memories that last forever. Impress your guests with standout details. Then smile and swim in the compliments you get on your big day!

So, let’s get you planning and throwing the best bash ever...without breaking the bank!

  • Make a list of what is most important to you at the end of the day. What do you want your guests to feel? What do you want them to experience? This can be as easy as setting a scene or theme. Romance? Rustic? Formal? Relaxed?
  • Go non-traditional on some things. It really is ok to think out of the box. Traditions today can be anything BUT traditional. Begin a new trend. Be unique and true to your personality. It’s your wedding, you can skip what you want too!
  • Have a signature cocktail.  You could forgo the pricey full bar, and do bride and groom signature cocktails. This will make your reception feel so personal.
  • Skip the traditional cake cutting. Remember, that thinking out of the box thing? How about releasing paper lanterns? Planting a tree? Unity candle? Or you can go old-school tradition of just kissing over a tower of cakes for prosperity? Hello….donut bar!
  • Food: Four-course meals are not needed. Depending on the time of day, locations, facilities, and theme...you can do all kinds of creative food things! Food bar, banquet, finger foods and culturally themed food items are all a go.
  • Have a DIY bar. Now, this is fun and unique! Whether it is an ice-cream bar, candy bar or cigar bar, it can be simple, fun and inexpensive.
  • Provide a Phone charging station.  A cute little table near an electrical outlet and a variety of phone chargers makes this a simple yet sometimes important detail. Provide a hashtag for all your guests to post those awesome wedding day photos!
  • Fancy invitations are not the most important part. Amazing does not have to mean expensive!  Your invitations should reflect the general theme of the wedding.  With today’s technology, you can design them yourself. Cha-ching! You just saved a bundle.
  • Friends make good officiants. Seriously, who else knows you so well? Get out there and ask around. Everyone knows an eloquent and likable friend that loves the spotlight.
  • Have an amazing send-off.  Some venues don’t allow rice to be thrown. Want amazing photos? Throw confetti instead. Better yet, for an evening wedding give guests sparklers and exit the party like a rock star.

In the end, your wedding should be a true expression of you and your honey. Make it a reflection of your love and personality. So many simple things can make a memorable and exciting wedding without breaking the bank.  Be creative and make it simply marvelous. Find all those great ideas, and think out of the box to save a ton of money.

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Strategies to market your services vs marketing products!
Marketing your services
 

To actually be different than everyone else out there is not actually that hard. You are born different and there is no one else out there like you . That is what makes life so interesting and special. However, when It comes to showcasing your talents and making yourself and services stand out online and on social media, to be different is sadly a totally different thing. It is easy to look around at what all your competitors are doing and copy them or mimic what they are doing, thinking “Hey, if it works for them, then it should work for me.” But that is not going to work. If anything, it just becomes spam and makes you blend in there more than anything else.

So you are probably guessing what I am going to say next, but to stand out you need to look around at what everyone else is doing and do something different. Possibly even the complete opposite. You may make a few mistakes, but this is the only way to truly make your mark and look totally different then anyone else.

Now,  when you are marketing clothing or goods, it is easy to market something that is not directly "you".  At least when I am marketing myself, I always feel like I am standing up waving my hand, saying "Look at me, look at me!",  like a silly child. 

It also seems like it is easier to find material out there to help to market products vs. services. This is probably because marketing yourself sucks and it is really hard. Hard in the same way it is hard to stand in front of a class and give a presentation. Hard like having to talk to a group of strangers about how "what you have to offer is the best, and they should pay attention". It takes a certain set of bravery and is not for the faint of heart.

I don't want to offend anyone, but marketing a product is easy.

Simply show a picture and talk about how great it is, how you can’t live without it....and in a perfect world, people buy it. When you are selling yourself or your services, it is not that straight forward. Self doubt starts sinking in and even the most confident person starts wondering if they are good enough.  Is this something they should be doing?  If this is what they are supposed to be doing, then why is marketing yourself so flipping hard? It is easy to start thinking about not being good enough, and allowing weaknesses to start holding you back. Putting yourself out there to be vulnerable is hard and scary, and quite honestly, it held me back for a long time. 

I felt like all my pictures sucked (they really might, but that is not what this is about.)

I felt like everything was out of focus and my greens always sucked. Who even knows whats going on with white balance?? Plus, when I read back on what I posted, I always thought,  "Oh god, do I really sound that stupid?". It's a lot like hearing your own voice on the answering machine. No one likes hearing their own voice.  But, I think if you are NOT feeling that way, that means you are not being vulnerable or your true, authentic self. If you are not being real, vulnerable and true, then you are not relating to your audience and possible clientele. 

So, once you stop trying to be a product...a headband or a coffee cup, and stop pretending to be perfect, you will start attracting clients who are your ideal clients. Clients who value your work. Clients who love your style and can afford to pay you a living wage because you are a real person and someone who they can relate too. Which is what we all want. You will start being able to breathe because your inbox is full of happy people who admire and respect you. And you get to work with people and projects that inspire you and you won’t have to worry about trying to keep up, because you are already creating your own game. You don’t need to look at what other people are posting on social media or blogging about and then trying to put “your spin” on it. You already know what YOU need to be doing out there because you created your own message. It is you, and it is your truth. You just need to stand in it.

So here is MY simple blue print I give to my 1-on-1 clients to help them come up with how to stand in their truth. 

 These can be used for social media posts or for blog posts. For sake of ease let’s start with posting on social media. 

1.) Post YOUR interests: Post what lights you up and you feel passionate about.  If you like running, post pretty pictures that you took of your running shoes. Use this as a perfect way to show your favorite / brand / colors on Instagram, against some negative space. I don’t like running, however I do love perfectly styled flat layers of hipster clothing or pretty colored makeup on white marble. 

2.) Post yourself: Selfie time! Yeah, I hate this idea too, but people love to see you either behind the scenes and what you are doing. I did a challenge for myself where I was going to post every day for a month photos of me actually getting dressed. (Like out of my pj's kind of dressed.)  It was some of my most popular posts and encouraged people to reach out to me, while some even took the challenge themselves. You can also post some behind the scenes pictures with you working with other vendors, so you both get some face time.

3.) Post your work: Mix it up and don’t just post your own pictures. This is important. You can’t just show your own perfect work. You have to show different things that tell your brands story and personality.

4.) Post what makes you feel inspired: What lights you up will light up the people you want to work with. For me this is inspirational quotes. This can also be some other peoples' artwork such as a watercolor artist or florists. They will also appreciate the love and be more likely to share your work in the future.

5.) Post what others are saying about you: Testimonials or other publications that have shown your work is a great way to develop credibility. Which in turn, makes you seem more trust worthy to buy services from.

 

If no one is saying anything about you or you still do not know where to start, then no big deal, let's fix that! 

Here is a free worksheet I have created to help you get started and figure out how you can stand out and stand in your truth.